Monday, April 30, 2012

Huachuca has taught me something

A year ago, I would have never thought I'd be able to stomach the idea of staying in Fort Huachuca after retirement.  I year ago, when you asked, "So where are you going to go when Chris retires?"  I would have surely answered with, "GEORGIA, of course!"  And I would have given you the crazy DUH-look!, I mean because, who would want to stay in the deserts??

There are only five months left until retirement.  

I have to pause to take that in because I can't believe retirements is really right around the corner.  But it is.  And it's so strange to me that it's so close.

I mean, I'm just getting started as a "real" Army Wife.  

Before now, we've never lived on post and I've never been in the mix of Military Spouses, knowing how they are, what they do, what they think.  This has been a real eye-opening experience for me.  I find myself drawn to helping spouses become better spouses.  I find myself drawn to wanting to make sure people have the information they need for every situation.  I'm learning what all the Military has available for spouses and I want to teach what I'm learning to others.

I have always been involved.  You all know how much time I've spent in the kids classes over the years, but now, I want to be involved with helping spouses get a positive outlook on the Military life.  I know I've heard so many times about how the Military doesn't care about the families.  Not long ago, you would have found me co-signing on that statement.  

My experience started with being a co-leader for the FRG (Family Readiness Group) in Georgia.  Although the group was small and many women at our level didn't feel they needed the FRG for support during the deployment, I started then realizing the togetherness of Military Spouses.

Now, don't get me wrong, living on post is not all hunky-dory! These are some of the most complaining-est chicks I've ever seen.  Calling the MP (military police) because dogs are barking outside, because kids are playing too loud in the backyards or because your neighbors kids are sticking their hands through your fence touching your dog...  REALLY!  

But some of these wives are some amazing chicks with some really big hearts.  I've met some great girls.  Some really good friends.  And my experience has change, twisted and molded my view of the Military Spouse.  

These are some STRONG women.  I love that I have found like-minded friends who see a need to share with, help and inform other spouses of what is right there and available to them.  I love that I have people who see what I see and want to help me achieve my goal.

As a spouse, on my way out, you'd think I'd have this military stuff down packed, but it's so amazing what I learn and what I have learned in the past year.  I know that I could continue to offer my help and volunteer my time once we retire, and most likely that is what I will continue to do.  

Especially since it's looking more and more like we may be in Arizona a little longer than I expected!



MrsTDJ said...

Great post. I have a silly question, but if ya don't ask, ya won't know, right? I love the show "Army Wives" on Lifetime. Can you tell me how decent of a representation of Army live it really is?

Mommy Fabulous said...

LOL! You're right. If you don't ask you wont know. Well, if you ask any Army Wife that question, they will probably tell you that the show is very unrealistic. I said the same when I first began watching that show as I just didn't see such a diverse group of ladies becoming such close friends. LOL! Old Army says that Officers didn't mix with non-commisioned. This mean that hire ranks generally could not fraternize with lower enlisted. Well, that's an Army rule for the Soldier, not the spouses, but that didn't stop spouses from taking that and running with it. Well, when I moved here, I found a diverse group of friends from all ranks and I realized that "old Army" just wasn't "My Army". I have never worn the ranks and have never been one to allow a certain stigma to choose my friends. I have friends who are new to the military and those that are wives of Colonels who have been at this for well over 20 years.

Many things about Army Wives may not be completely accurate, but it gives those looking in an idea of what Army Wives go through.

MrsTDJ said...

Thanks for answering ma'am! I've been curious and figured it was worth asking. =)