Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Lesson on COLOR from children

My kids are amazing. No I mean like really REALLY amazing!

As you know, my kids are 4, 6, and 8 (and a half, LOL).

I know that all moms have had moments where they are driving and listening to their kids conversations in the back seat. Well, the other day, they had one of those conversations that just made me smile.

I'm waiting in the Walmart parking lot for a guy to pull out of a space and on the side of our car, Miss Missy notices a biracial couple putting groceries into their trunk.

"He can't be her husband. They are not the same." She spoke inquisitively, sounding a little confused.

Sir-Talks-A-Lot and Runnin' Man: "They could still be married, Kennedy."

Sir Talks-A-Lot: "It doesn't matter about your color. It matters about your heart."

Runnin' Man: "It matters about love."

It's moments like that that melt a mama's heart.

Why is it that the world can't think the same way? I teach my kids to not see color. To not judge people by the color of their skin. When Runnin' Man was about 4, he identified everyone by the color of their shirt. "That ORANGE guy right their.." "That BLUE guy on TV..."

That all worked fine for me until we were at my dad's job one day and he kept saying, "That WHITE guy over there That WHITE guy over there..." Okay, I was a bit embarrassed and tried to explain to the "white" guy that he was talking about the color of his shirt and that NO I do not teach my children to be racist. LOL!

But, to hear the kids recognize something so simple as love does not see color...... WOW!

I hear women all the time trying to figure out why Black men marry white women and coming to the conclusion that they are a SELL OUT for doing so.

Or that the reason that White women get with Black men is because of the stereotype about sex.

COME ON, PEOPLE! When are we going to get past the issue of color and see things as simple as children see them? When are we going to let people love who they love, regardless of the color of their skin? Whose business is it of yours, mine or anyone else to judge? Major barriers have obviously been broken with the election of a Black President, but there are many more to conquer. Take notes from children and know that they are innocent enough to see what we all should see. Love sees no color.


Live.Love.Eat said...

Amen!!!!! I am so glad you came by. I am happy that my son RECOGNIZES different color but he doesn't SEE it where it matters to him. My sister married & divorced a black man and 2 beautiful children were born. My son loves his cousins so much and when we're all walking down the street together I am even more proud to be a part of this family. And I grew up in a melting pot in the Bronx so I was already friends with "every color." So, sometimes I think people are scared of what they don't know, what they didn't grow up with. Hopefully this generation is easing out of that.

Again, thank you so much for saying hello. Keep on coming back!!!!!

Jenni Jiggety said...

Clearly you are raising some wonderful and smart children! Way to go, Mom! :-D

La Pixie said...

good for you! you deserve to be proud of your babies. Im Mexican, but Im pretty light, and my Boyfriend is half Black. I know that when we go out, we get a lot of surprised looks, which I really dont understand. I mean, we dont live in the 50s anymore!! Im always surprised that other people are surprised.

Tiaras and Tantrums said...

YES YES!!! the children are jaded by the jaded adults! Shameful!

Dorsey said...

I LOVE that your children made such observations!! I truly brought a flutter to my heart and a tear to my eye. Its simple just wonderful!!!

Ali said...

Bravo! I love those validating moments that show us that we are doing a good job raising our kids!

Melissa said...

AMEN, AMEN!!! You are so right....Love (friendship, companionship, co-working etc..) knows no color!!
I wish we could all sometimes have the innocence, realness & rawness of children!! We could probably learn alot from them!! :)

maitlandmommy said...

why can't the world stay 7 & 8 years old - right??

Kristin said...

That is awesome. You have great kids!

One time at the shoe store, my daughter was about 4, and she saw some Barbie shoes that were black, and she says rather loudly, "Barbie isn't supposed to be black!" meaning that Barbie stuff is usually pink! Well, you should've seen the look this woman gave me from across the room! It was so embarassing! But, my daughter knew nothing of race....she was just making a fashion observation! Ha!

I just love the innocence of kids. If we could all be so accepting, the world would surely be a better place.

Renée aka Mekhismom said...

Out of the mouth of babes. I love this post. It is so funny how the world changes our view of things. I agree , if only we could be like children.

Sabrae said...

Now that is amazing!!! Good job on raising your kids right!! :)

The Daily Blonde said...

Kids keep it so real...it's adults that mess it up. You are a fantastic Mom...great kids!