Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Tell It Like It T-I-Z Tuesday

Okay, for those of you who don't know, I've started a new segment in my blog as titled.

Tell It Like It TIZ Tuesday

This is where I pick absolutely any topic and voice my opinion, no matter what it may be. I'll be talking about anything from fashion to politics. What ever float my fancy on Tuesday. Some people might really be interested in my opinion, others won't. It's okay. Everybody can't be swimming in my world of fabulocity!

Hey, feel free to tell me if I'm wrong in this.

This situation today kinda disturbed me just a little bit today. I was at the school today preparing this PTO function. We were setting up a little Thank You Teachers Snack table thingy for the teachers that came to the Book Fair. For those of you that don't know, I'm on the PTO board at my kids school. Yep, I'm one of those. The PTO VP with about as much experience and know-how as Little Miss Gov. Palin herself.

Ya dern right!

So anywho, a friend of mine was there volunteering her time to the cause, which, as always, is much appreciated. We'd been there earlier in the day helping sort some fundraising orders in the gym during the time that the First Graders were having PE. We just have great parents like that!

Well, while we were preparing for the mini banquet, she made a comment that struck a nerve.

As many of you may know, I'm kind of a strict mom. I expect the best from my children and expect that they remain on their best behavior at all times, especially during school. One thing that bothers me is parents that will side with their child when the child does something wrong.

Her: I thought I was going to have to say something to one of those PE teachers if they got out of line today.

Me, confused: Why, something happen?

Her: Well, they just tend to be too hard on the kids and C gets in trouble for simple stuff like he didn't cross his legs the right way. I think that's too much. They need to learn to be more sensitive. They are just kids.

Me: Well, they are doing what they have to do to teach discipline to the kids. If the kids aren't following directions then they should be punished in some way.

Her: No, I was a teacher. I know that they don't have to be like that with these kids.

Me: Okay and that's why my kids are the way that they are. I don't coddle them and baby them whenever a teacher or another adult gets on them for something that they have done wrong. They have to be disciplined. You should know how it goes, your husband is in the military. If a superior says to do something this way and you choose to do it that way, you suffer the consequences. Same with here.

(my kids KNOW better! You get in trouble at school and it's on like POP POP POP corn when you get home!)

Her: No! My kids ain't in no military.

I just sigh as the PTO Pres. (the maverick) hands me something to arrange on the table.

Okay, so I may be wrong, but I so believe that as a child, when an adult says something, you listen.

I so believe that if you don't listen that you have consequences.

I am not one of those parents that you will find disputing my child's case against a teacher that has told him to sit down more than once and then decides to take away his recess.

I'm not one of those parents who feel that the teacher should try to be more sensitive to Little Billy because he had a bad morning.

I expect my child to follow the rules or be punished, simple as that.

I guess this situation was a bother to me because this parent is always looking for an excuse for her son's behavior instead of simply allowing him to take responsibility for his actions. I think that we should go back to the old school displine.

Remember when it was okay for anyone in your neighborhood that was grown to whoop your butt if you did something bad?

Miss Addie Mae would whip your behind for climbing in her cherry tree and send you back to your mom and you'd get another one when she found out. Those were the days when kids had fear and respect for grown folks. It just wouldn't have had the same affect if your mom would have went back and told Addie Mae "You should be more sensitive. He just loves cherries."

Okay, well maybe I'm not making any since, but with all that said, I just strongly believe that children should respect adults, especially teachers, and it is the parents responsility to teach them to do so. They won't learn that respect if they have a parent that is always undermining that teachers authority and saying that it's okay to act up a little bit. And that adult or teacher should just understand.

Uhhh No!

In conclusion, don't turn your children into brats who think that things should always do their way.


Anonymous said...

yep, kids need spankings, there's no doubt. not for every single issue, but there's definitely a need. *Gulp* I guess that does make us mavericks.

egiffing said...

Amen! I couldn't agree more. That is one of my pet peeves and why i could never be a teacher because of the parents. As you know when it comes to disicpline with my kids I don't play. It drives me nuts when I see and hear kids act up with adults espically when the adult is a teacher or bus driver. Hey I know we would all like to think our kids are perfect and when they get in trouble its not their fault, but I live in the real world I know my child is well behaved but she is a child and when she has slip ups I am on her like peanut butter on jelly. Lets face it if we don't teach them to pay attention and follow rules you tell me how well they will do in the adult world?

...love Maegan said...

I just want to say that your kids are sooooooooooooooooooooooooo freaking cute!!!!!!!

...and that's all :)

Melissa said...

AMEN TO THIS!!! Kids do not understand cosequence anymore... It seems like now-a-days kids believe they are boss....oh no..not in my house... R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!!!!

Justice Jonesie said...

I agree with you 100% for the simple reason that her kid will end up in my class trying to get a pass for not following the rules. MADNESS!